Tuesday, January 8, 2019

Bat McGrath: A Dear Friend to Camp Good Days

I hope that everyone had a great holiday and that you all had the chance to enjoy and spend time with your families.  I am very excited for 2019, because we are celebrating Camp Good Days’ 40th anniversary.  I have said many times on this blog that what made Camp Good Days the organization it is today are the hundreds of special people that have come into my life over the years and helped Camp Good Days.

One of those very special people is Bat McGrath, and I was taken aback when I heard recently that he had been diagnosed with cancer.  I first met Bat McGrath when Camp Good Days was celebrating its 35th anniversary.  We were thinking of what we could do to celebrate, and the idea was brought up to have a concert where music artists, who had their roots in Rochester, would come and perform.  Bat McGrath was the first person suggested in the discussion.  Unfortunately, before the plans were put into effect, there was a devastating flood that swept through the lower part of Camp Good Days’ recreational facility on Keuka Lake, which caused almost half a million dollars in damages.  The flood became our priority since we wanted to try and get the camp repaired before our children’s programs started in July.  The community responded and we were able to open for our programs in July.  Unfortunately, we had to cancel our weekend programs leading up to July, but we were able to reschedule them in the fall before we closed camp down for the winter.  

Bat, who sometimes makes several appearances in the Finger Lakes area, decided to visit camp on his own before heading back home to Nashville, Tennessee.  When he got back to Nashville he felt compelled to write a song about Camp Good Days.  When I received the song, I was absolutely blown away, it was beautiful.  I was so excited,that I played the song for all of our staff at our following staff meeting.  I asked Bat if there was any way that he could play the song at camp when he was up in the Finger Lakes area for the summer. He was able to visit during the weekend of our international program with his wife, and play the song for our campers, staff, and volunteers.  While some of our campers did not understand what he was saying, every time he said “Camp Good Days,” they cheered.  It was a very special concert and we were very grateful for him taking the time to bring smiles to our campers’ faces.  When I was thanking him after the concert, he said that what would make it even more special would be if there was a video to go with it.  I was unsure of who to contact to make the video, and he said he would ask some of his friends who were in video production to make it.  A little while later, when I was invited to see the video for the first time, I got very emotional.  Without my knowing, they had placed in the video, clips of Teddi, and it was a wonderful surprise for me to see them.  Since then, the DVD of the song and video has been played hundreds of times at our events, camping programs, and presentations.  The entire project didn’t cost Camp Good Days anything, and it is one of the most generous gifts we have ever received.  If you haven’t seen the video, here is the link on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=biQWpUcRvbY.

It is crazy to me that it is 2019, and we are still having situations like this one with Bat McGrath, where he was otherwise healthy and then finds out he has cancer.  I don’t understand why the government is so focused on arguing over a wall, and having a government shutdown, when that time and effort could be going to something that is affecting every single American whether directly or indirectly.  We need to find a way to end this disease.  One out of every three women and one out of every two men will be diagnosed with cancer in their lifetime.  Cancer in the United States is like one of the Twin Towers is falling every day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.  For everyone in the United States under 80 years old, cancer is the leading cause of death. Despite the progress we have made, there are still so many people being diagnosed with this disease, and the treatments are still very intense and hard on the patients.  Our government needs to put money and effort into finding the answers.

I ask all of you to keep Bat McGrath and the hundreds of thousands of people who will be diagnosed with cancer this year, in your thoughts.  Hopefully, 2019 will bring in new changes and information in regards to finding the answers to cancer.

Friday, October 19, 2018

It's Officially Event Season

It is officially fall, and we are making the transition from being down at camp to being back in our offices in Mendon.

We had one of our last programs October 13-14, our Fall Fest weekend program.  Our Rochester campers were invited to come down and have a Halloween weekend with their friends from camp before our facility closes until spring. 

We have our last program of the year this weekend, our Men’s Prostate Retreat.  I am very committed to this program and want to see it continue to grow every year.  We get wonderful support from some of the best Urology doctors in Upstate New York including Dr. Jean Joseph who is the Chief of Urology at Strong, and Dr. Louis Eichel who is the Chief of Urology at Rochester General Hospital.  I have heard doctors say that if every man lived to be 100, all would have prostate cancer, and if every woman lived to be 100, all would have breast cancer.  The information given during the talks at this retreat is very helpful, and the entire program is free of charge to the participants. 

As our 39th season comes to a close, I find myself thinking about how wonderful it is that so many people have been impacted by our programs and have been able to share the experience with others just like them. 

On Saturday, September 29th, we had the 14th annual Courage Bowl.  The game was between the St. John Fisher College Cardinals and the College at Brockport Golden Eagles at the College at Brockport.  We had a wonderful crowd of over 7,000 people and it was a chilly, but perfect night for football.  This game gave children from Camp Good Days the opportunity to be part of a college football team and cheerleading squad.  The event has truly become more than just a game. While there had to be a winner and a loser, the real winners were the children from Camp Good Days who participated, and all of the student athletes from Fisher and Brockport displayed great sportsmanship. Brockport also put on a wonderful luncheon where the honorary coaches and cheerleaders met their teams, and where Monroe County Sheriff, Todd Baxter was presented with the Father Joe Lanzalaco Memorial Courage Award.  I greatly appreciate Dr. Macpherson and the College at Brockport for hosting such a wonderful luncheon. The game could not have taken place without President Heidi Macpherson, Athletic Director Erick Hart, Coach Mangone, and the other wonderful staff and players at Brockport, along with President Gerard Rooney, Athletic Director Bob Ward, Coach Vosburgh, and the great staff and players at St. John Fisher. I have never, at another sporting event, seen hundreds of football players, who have given it their all on the field, be able to come together at the end of the game to cheer on the honorary coaches and cheerleaders; these college football players are TRUE student athletes. This is a credit to the staff at both schools for instilling good sportsmanship in their players, especially on the night of an event that is truly “more than just a game.”

As we look ahead to ending the year of 2018, we have the 18th annual Camp Good Days Wine Auction Dinner on Saturday, November 17th, this year with a Winter Wonderland theme. There is no better place to enjoy a wonderful meal and taste medal winning wine from the Finger Lakes International Wine Competition, as well as bid on medal winning wine and other unique items. If you or someone you know likes wine, there will be plenty of wine available to drink and purchase to add to your wine collection.  Thanks to JCPenney, we also have our annual Kazoo Fest starting on Black Friday all through Christmas, where we will be selling kazoos and other items at the area malls (Eastview, Marketplace, Greece Ridge) to raise money to help fund our programs. Anyone can sign up to volunteer on our website! During Kazoo Fest, we will also be selling our car raffle tickets.  Thanks to Vanderstyne Toyota and Toyota Motor Company, we have a 2019 Toyota Corolla SE that will be raffled off during the Teddi Dance for Love at St. John Fisher College on Saturday, February 9th, 2019.  Tickets are 1 for $20 and 3 for $50 and all proceeds go directly to fund our programs and services.

As we move forward into the holiday season, I wish you all a safe, happy and healthy holiday season, and I hope to see you at the Wine Auction Dinner or volunteering at Kazoo Fest.

Thursday, September 6, 2018

As Summer Comes to an End

Our 39th summer here at Camp Good Days has come to an end too soon, but what a summer it has been.  The lord blessed us with beautiful weather, and despite some rain storms in August, the camp suffered no damage.

Earlier in the summer, board member and volunteer, Frank Towner, spoke to the new volunteers during volunteer training.  He and his wife, Melanie, met while being volunteers for Camp Good Days.  Frank was part of the inspiration behind the clown in our logo since he, for many years, has dressed up as Crossroads the clown down at camp to help make the children smile.

To start off our summer, we had our Supportive Spouse program for women or men diagnosed with cancer along with their spouse or friend who has supported them throughout their cancer diagnosis.  As the summer went on, we had the rest of our programs: Junior Good Days, B&ST, Childhood USA I and II, our Doing a World of Good Program, our Brain Tumor Family Retreat, and our Teddi’s Team program.  The children had many visitors during these weeks including the St. John Fisher College and the College at Brockport football teams, the NSX car show, after which, the children were able to ride in sports cars around Watkins Glen, and various law enforcement officers with their canines and electronic toys.

We also had our Rochester City School District Leadership program for children going from elementary school to middle school.  There were many wonderful speakers who came to educate the children on what it is like to work in law enforcement including JP Kennedy, the US Attorney for the Western District of NY; FBI Agent, Jeremy Bell; Deputy Chief of the Rochester Fire Department, Willie Jackson; Monroe County Sheriff, Todd Baxter; and United States Marshal, Charles Salina.

This summer, we had hundreds campers across all of our programs from all over the world, and it is crazy to think of how we started, with just 21 campers from Rochester, 21 from Buffalo, and 21 from Syracuse.  We also had some new campers this year in our Doing a World of Good program from Africa! It is hard to believe that over the past 39 years, we have served over 48,300 campers.

At camp, you know you did your job well if the children are smiling during the programs, and then crying when they leave because they don’t want to go home.  They get to make wonderful bonds with their fellow campers, along with the summer staff, and the volunteers in their cabins. Camp Good Days is truly a place where the campers can be around other children who know exactly what it is like to be them.

Coming up, we have our last two programs; our Women’s Wellness Weekend, and our Men’s Prostate Retreat, and then our programs will officially be done for this year at the facility.

We are getting into event season now, and to kick it off, last Thursday, we had the third Teddi Bowl section V football game, this year between Pittsford and Victor high schools.  There was a full stadium at St. John Fisher College, where we held the game, and the campers who were Honorary Coaches and Cheerleaders had a wonderful time.  Coming up, we have our Tour de Teddi bike ride around Keuka Lake this weekend, the Courage Bowl on September 29th at the College at Brockport, and our Wine Auction Dinner at the Holiday Inn Downtown on November 17th.

This summer was a busy, but wonderful summer, and I am excited for our events this fall.  I wish everyone a safe, happy and healthy start to the school year.

Thursday, August 2, 2018

Campers Visit to the Buffalo Bills Training Camp

As summer is moving along, we are getting close to my favorite time of year, football season, and the campers and I had a taste of it on Friday, July 27 when we were guests of the Buffalo Bills at their Training Camp at St. John Fisher College.

We were given the use of the Community Service Youth Tent where each camper and volunteer were given goodie bags with a tee-shirt and a bills program book, and were treated to pizza and snacks.  Not only did the children get a chance to use the interactive activities that were there, they were also able to watch the Bills practice, and after practice, a number of players took the time to come by and meet the kids, sign autographs, and take pictures.  The highlight for me was getting the chance to meet and say “thank you” to Bills’ player Jordan Poyer, who has helped support Camp Good Days in the Buffalo region.  I was also able to meet the Bills’ punter, Colton Schmidt, which was a special moment for me, since it reminded me of being a Special Teams Coach for St. John Fisher, a position I semi-retired from last year after 29 years. 

We have been coming to the Bills Training Camp with our campers ever since the Bills moved their camp to St. John Fisher.  It is truly a wonderful opportunity for the campers to get to meet the players; who they wouldn’t normally have the chance to meet.  Watching their faces light up is the best part of the day.

As I write this, we are in the midst of our busiest time at camp with our international program underway, which brings in children with cancer and sickle cell anemia from all over the world.  We have campers from Spain, Ethiopia, Germany, Belize, the Dominican Republic, and two groups from the Bahamas from Nassau and Freeport. We also have children from the Tampa Florida Children’s Cancer Center.  It is always amazing to watch the children have a wonderful time and make friends despite the language barriers that might exist. Adults from the UN Security Council could learn something from the campers.

Seeing the children down at camp reminds me of the importance of our work.  And while I am needed here like an extra mosquito, I love to sit on my deck and watch the interactions between the campers, volunteers, and our staff, and it makes me feel like a proud grandpa to know that I helped to make it all possible.

I wish you all a safe, happy, and healthy rest of your summer.

Thursday, May 31, 2018

Gearing up for the Summer

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On Monday, May 21, we held our 35th annual Tournament of Love at Monroe Golf Club, and just like past years, we were blessed with a beautiful day.  If Rochester’s temperatures stayed like it was during the tournament, there would never be a reason for anyone to leave to go down south.  There were over 100 golfers of all ages who participated in the tournament, and everyone had a great time.  I would like to give special thanks to Liz Vega and Jeff Calkins who were our Honorary Chairs for the event, Dino Kay, who was our Master of Ceremonies, and Sister Francella Quinn, who once again provided a wonderful invocation.  I would also like to thank all those who participated.  This event is another way for Camp Good Days to raise the much needed money we need to run our programs. 

It is hard to believe that what was started to provide my daughter Teddi and 63 other children with a camping experience would turn into what we have today, having served over 47,800 campers from 22 states and 35 countries. 
Our first program of this summer is this weekend, and is one of our adult oncology programs, Camp SOAR, also called our Supportive Spouse weekend.  Men and women who have been diagnosed with cancer can come to the program with their spouse, significant other, or friend who has been very supportive to them during their cancer diagnosis.  The weekend consists of activities like massage, crafts, woodworking, and many opportunities for attendees to interact and bond with one another over their shared experiences. 

Our first children’s program will be our Junior Good Days programs starting the last week in June, and right after July 4th, we will begin our weekly programs until the end of the summer. It is amazing that our programs are still happening after all these years, and that has only been able to happen due to our hundreds of volunteers that we have at camp each summer.  I can’t stress enough that our volunteers is what keeps Camp Good Days going. 

If anyone would like to stop by camp during the summer, we highly encourage it, as we are always happy to have people visit the facility and see the amazing work that is being done there.  If you would like to visit, please give the Mendon office a call at 585-624-5555 and let my assistant, Kira, know when you are planning on coming down to camp so that she can tell our staff down at camp when to expect you. 

I wish everyone a safe, healthy and happy summer.

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

A Night of Gratitude

One special night every year, we here at Camp Good Days take the time to honor our wonderful volunteers at the Night of Gratitude event.  This year, on April 13th, 40 volunteers were honored during the ceremony—twenty-seven were awarded with the Teddi Award, which is presented to those who have gone above and beyond, throughout the past year, in fulfillment of the mission of Camp Good Days, and thirteen were inducted into the Ring of Honor, which is the highest honor you can receive with our organization.  These inductees have shown continued and outstanding support, dedication, and commitment to the mission of Camp Good Days.  They will also have bricks with their name created, to be placed in the Ring of Honor down at our facility on Keuka Lake.
Our volunteers are the backbone of Camp Good Days, and every year we have hundreds who help with our summer camp programs, our year-round activities, and events. 
This year, the event was made even more special when I recognized our employees who have been staff members for over 10 years. I was very happy to honor five of our staff members, who do so much to continue the mission of Camp Good Days, and help the children and families we serve.  Camp Good Days would not be able to run smoothly without them! The staff members who were honored were:

Lisa Booz, 13 years, who is the Director of the WNY Regional Office
Tamara Federico, 26 years, who is in charge of the Women’s Oncology programs, Rochester’s Junior Good Days, and is the Assistant Finance Manager
James R. McCauley Jr., 13 years, who is the PAVE Coordinator, and is in charge of the Men’s Prostate Retreat
Karl Rudolfs, 18 years, who is the IT Director, and helps run the Finger Lakes International Wine Competition
Mark Serrett, 11 years, who is the Director of Maintenance down at our camping recreational facility

Around this time, everyone in our offices are switching into summer mode, and getting ready for our camping programs down on Keuka Lake.  This is such an exciting time of year, and we look forward to seeing everyone down at camp. 
I hope that everyone has a wonderful, safe, and happy spring. 

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Congresswoman Louise Slaughter Will Truly Be Missed

It took a few times of hearing about Congresswoman Louise Slaughter’s death for it to truly sink in.  She was the type of person who seemed larger than life.  She and I had known each other for 45 years, and it doesn’t seem possible that she could be gone. 

She first came into my life when she decided to run for a Democratic seat on the Monroe County Legislature while I was the Deputy Campaign Manager for the Monroe County Republican Committee.  After losing two close races, she finally won in her third try.  She was unstoppable even then.  After being on the County Legislature, she worked for Mario Cuomo when he was the Secretary of State.  She then moved on to be in the State Assembly, and then in 1986, she won her first term in Congress.  When she died, she was in her 16th term in Congress.  Over the years, her stature had risen until she was one of the most powerful members of Congress. 

Our paths crossed again in the early 90s when I decided to start an international program at Camp Good Days, Doing a World of Good, so that children from around the world affected by cancer could come together with children from Western New York to come to our recreational facility on Keuka Lake.  In the first year of us providing the program, some of the countries who wanted to participate were having trouble getting exit visas.  I flew with the people who were in charge of the program to Washington DC to meet with various friends to see who we could get help from, and after talking to a few people, we ended up meeting with Louise after lunch at her office.  She came out to meet us, and made us feel instantly welcome.  She gave us so much of her time that we almost missed our flight back to Rochester.  She and her office helped us so much when we first started the Doing a World of Good program, and since that program has started, we have had children attend from 35 different countries.

That election season, for the first time in 25 years, I didn’t have a dog in the fight, and so I was home watching the results on television with my wife, Wendy.  When Bob King defeated Tom Frey, Steve Minarik, the Republican County Chairman said during his speech, now that we have gotten rid of Tom Frey, next we’re coming after you, Congresswoman Louise Slaughter.  My wife, Wendy, looked at me and said, Gary, you can’t let that happen.  So a few days after the election, Louise and I met for coffee at the Coal Tower in Pittsford, where I told her that of all the people we met with on our trip to Washington DC, she could gave just given us lip service, but instead, she helped more than anyone else to make our program successful.  And so, I said that if she needed any help with her election in the following year, I would be happy to help.  Louise asked, and I did.  We did a radio spot and a mailing for her, and she was able to win her re-election.

From that point on, Louise and my relationship took on a special meaning, and Louise and Bob became friends of Wendy and mine, and we would all go out to dinner together. I received a phone call one summer, while I was down at camp, from Louise in Washington, asking me to call her back because she needed a favor.  She said that she was having a fundraiser at the Convention Center, but there was a vote scheduled for President Clinton’s Crime Bill, and she needed to stay in Washington DC.  She asked me if I would represent her and introduce Vice President Al Gore at her fundraiser where he was a special guest.  I left camp, went home, and changed, and went to the fundraiser where I sat with the Vice President, welcomed the guests, and explained why Louise couldn’t make it.  I was very honored that she had asked me, and this shows just how close our relationship was.  Louise was a great supporter of Camp Good Days.  She helped with the Kazoo Fest where she would sell kazoos at the Eastview Mall, and she also helped to arrange a visit for the campers to meet Vice President Al Gore in Washington DC, and arranged not only a special tour of the White House, but also of other sites in Washington DC. She spent some time down at our recreational facility on Keuka Lake to see the volunteers and campers when we were in the summer season, and she would often come over to the office in Mendon to meet our staff.  Then, when I had the idea a few years ago for Cancer Mission 2020, the end of cancer by the end of the decade, Louise was one of the first people I went to, and she was very, very supportive.

While Louise and I didn’t often agree on many issues over the years, me being a Republican and Louise being a Democrat, we had such a great respect for each other.  When people would ask me why I always supported her even though we didn’t see eye-to-eye on many issues, I would say that she is a woman who has been in office for many years at the local, state and federal levels without even a hint of scandal, which is very rare to see these days.  She truly cared about her community, and was an upstanding person.   I think that this community has lost one of its most influential people, and it will be very hard to fill the void her passing has created. 

When her husband, Bob, died I thought that she would consider ending her career, especially since he was her constant companion after he retired from Eastman Kodak; they were truly a team.  She ended up deciding that she still had something to offer, and remained in public office. 

I will miss Louise dearly and our periodical coffees that we would have at the Starbucks on the corner of Clover and Monroe, and I know that I can speak on behalf of the campers and families of Camp Good Days, that we will all miss her commitment and willingness to make a difference.  She was truly a remarkable woman, a loyal friend, and a political force to be reckoned with and respected.